Never underestimate the effect that divorce has on your children even if they are adults. Because they are rarely consulted about the decision, they rarely understand the full story of why their parents divorced. In all to many cases one or both parents will belittle, berate, and in some cases even lie about their ex to their children in order to gain the child's sympathy and loyalty. In an oft...en confusing and stressful time this can start to break the bonds between parents and children. Misinformation can lead children to think one parent or the other failed and didn't do enough to preserve the marriage. While in some cases this may be true, in most cases there are two people that cause the marriage to fall apart. Always accept your share of the responsibility for your marriage failing.

It is good to have conversations with your children about their feelings and opinions regarding your divorce. Listen to what they say. Try to understand what they are feeling. Do not try to negate their feelings or tell them they are wrong for feeling what they feel. Always leave the door open to further communication about this subject without demeaning your ex. Over time your children may come to understand why the divorce took place. If they don't, at least you have opened the door to communication and understanding which in time may help with their healing process.

Dating Backward has been out for six weeks now. We had a pretty good first Kindle promotion...gave away 238 books. Sales are increasing little by little. We truly appreciate all your support and encouragement.

We are receiving great comments about the book and the impact it is having on the reader's lives. That is the most gratifying and humbling aspect of this project. Our goal has been and always will be to help singles make better decisions about the people they date and their relationship choices.

Excerpt from our submission to an on-line women's magazine

Dating is a time of learning about each other whether its the first date, third date or the 100th date. During this time you should be learning if you have a connection in each of the Four Cornerstones of a Relationship; intellectual, spiritual, emotional and physical. The physical connection has two components; physical attraction and ...physical intimacy. Physical attraction is usually pretty obvious, either we are attracted to someone or we aren't. However, when physical intimacy is introduced into a relationship to soon (i.e. the third date) your ability to connect intellectually, spiritually and emotionally decreases significantly, almost to the point of no connection at all. After the infatuation of a new relationship wears off you realize that you don't really know the person you are with and you are left wondering "is this all there is?" Intimacy should be postponed as long as possible to allow the intellectual, spiritual and emotional connections to develop more fully. If you have become intimate by the third date, make an effort to spend dating time in public places where you can have conversations and limit the potential for lust to take over.

You should never begin dating someone unless you know what characteristics you want in your mate. These are your "Must Haves" and are non-negotiable. As you start to date someone, your list of "Must Haves" will help you step back from the infatuation of a new relationship and identify red flags early on in the dating process. The sooner you are able to identify red flags, the sooner you will be able to determine if he is a candidate for a long-term relationship. If you are looking for a soul mate, you have to be willing to make adult decisions and step away from less than extraordinary relationships when red flags are present. Red flags are not necessarily character flaws. It just means that the two of you are not a great match.

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Free Kindle update

We just found out that overnight we reached #2 on Amazon's free book list under Personal Transformation. There are still 3 days left to download your free copy of Dating Backward on your Kindle.

For those of you new to our page, Dating Backward is our book for singles to help them make better decisions about the people they date and their relationship choices. For more information, check out our web page at luv4alifetime.com.